While doing laundry, I noticed 6 "Sagefire" T-shirts came out of a single load of laundry.
When I saw this, I laughed at the absurdity of my “Sagefire Uniform.”
I thought, “I don’t know what I’d wear without these!”
Then, like a pebble rolling down a mountain, my brain jumped to “Who am I without Sagefire?”
With the recent partitioning out of my own projects from the Sagefire name, I was so excited about all the fun, new things—new website! New social media platforms! New programs and coaching ideas!
But I avoided the big scary question… “If I’m not Sagefire, who am I?”
>insert scary movie sound effect and resulting panic<
I’m not the first to struggle with having an identity meltdown; I see it on a regular basis with clients.
“My kids are out of the house, who am I without them?”
“I lost my big corporate job, who am I now?”
“I left my marriage, who am I without them?”
Click for the million dollar question ->
Over the weekend, I fell into a common Shadow Maiden trap: Compare & Despair.
It happened when I ran into an old friend and suddenly found myself noticing how perfect she is—gorgeous, kind, genius, and funny, with legs for days and a high-profile job. She has all the things.
But in this Compare & Despair trap, the Shadow Maiden is telling us we’re "less than," "not enough," and "not worthy.”
Click to hear why that's bull-sh*t ->